Friendship isn’t something you have. It’s something you practice. Friendship isn’t something you have. It’s something you practice. In a world engineered for speed, self-sufficiency, and screens, many of us feel lonelier than ever. We expect friendship to be easy, effortless, and automatic. But for most of human history, connection wasn’t a luxury; it was the fabric of daily life. We didn’t ‘make time’ for one another in calendar blocks-we lived together inside shared rhythms, rituals, and responsibilities. In How to Make a Friend, bestselling author and community-builder Radha Agrawal reveals what modern culture has forgotten: friendship is gloriously inefficient-and that’s exactly why it matters. Drawing on research and decades of building real-world communities, Radha exposes the myth of toxic individualism and offers a radical reframe. Friendship doesn’t optimize for productivity or perfection; it optimizes for meaning. It asks us to show up when it’s inconvenient, lean into awkwardness, repair instead of retreat, and choose presence over performance. Friendship is a skill-and like any practice, it can be learned, strengthened, and reclaimed.
